Thursday, August 10, 2017

Building a Strong Marriage (Part Ten)

Building Block of Intimacy
In Genesis, back in the beginning we read that Adam and Eve were both naked, the man and his wife and were not ashamed (Gen. 2:25). We also read there in Genesis before Adam’s disobedience and sin enter the world that God commanded them to be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth (Gen. 1:28). Intimacy and mutual physical fulfillment have always been part of the husband and wife relationship.

Hebrews 13:4 informs us that “marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled” meaning that within the protective bonds of marriage sex can be enriching and glorifying to God. The husband and wife are to find sexual fulfillment in each other. We have to remember that marriage and everything that comes with it was God’s idea, He was the designer of it. This world has corrupted the intimacy of it, but God has multiple purposes for intimacy within the boundaries of marriage, let’s look at a few of them:

Intimacy within marriage is first of all for procreation. Sex within marriage is the process God gave us to multiply a godly heritage. But He also designed intimacy in a marriage to be protective. This special intimacy is to be reserved for the husband and wife with each other. Paul writes “Because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband” (1 Cor. 7:2). When a husband and wife maintain intimacy they are helping to protect each other from a sexually obsessed society. They are protecting their own faithfulness.

Scripture also teaches us that intimacy within marriage is also for the pleasure of the husband and wife. Scriptures like Song of Songs 4:10-12, 5:15-19 and Proverbs 5:18-19 clearly show us that intimacy within marriage is not evil or sinful. It was designed by God to bring pleasure and enjoyment in the relationship between husband and wife.

In 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Paul teach that a man and woman come together in marriage, each can expect sexual intimacy from the other. Paul also teaches there that if one partner decides to abstain, it is first to be agreed upon with the other and then only for a brief time. It is important to note that the Bible teaches that mankind is made up spirit, soul and body. Scripture always presents it in this order! In a marriage there ought to be care and time given to all three of these areas between the husband and wife; His spirit to her spirit, this is caring for one another’s spiritual needs. Soul to soul, this is caring for one another’s emotional needs and body to body, this caring for one another’s physical needs. This helps build and maintain a strong marriage! 

Tim Hadley Sr.

1 comment:

  1. Globally issue, creating a family is something I began to think about quite recently. Yes, I read tons of advice about "what's the marriage", or "how to be a good husband" of course "how to make a wife happy forever" blah blah bla.

    And you know, I'm thinking about the fact that my demands on girls have been too high recently (it dawned on me). I met a girl in a video chat and my choice was aimed at an attractive appearance, a truly beautiful face that would have pleased me in the morning with a sunny smile, long hair, and standards body about (90-60-90).

    But when I've started talking with 7 girls, I felt a kindred spirit with only one) Whether this is the fate, I can`t say for sure, just someone thinks that the girls are falling from the sky, and the family turns up without any effort, it's obvious an illusion)