Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Building a Strong Marriage (Part Two)

Let’s look a little deeper at this beginning stage of the home, the marriage. Let’s look at some of the building materials; I want to call them Building Blocks of a Marriage.

Building Block of Lifelong Commitment

We have already established that the foundation for a good solid marriage is to build this relationship on the Lord, to use another analogy the Lord is to be the third strand of rope that the husband and wife are wrapped around (Eccl. 4:12).

The Bible makes it very clear that God’s plan for marriage is one man and one woman for a lifetime. We see this in Matthew 19:4-6, “And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” The Lord Jesus goes there to respond to the question of divorce saying, “He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Except for the serious exception of material unfaithfulness, the marriage vow is a lifetime commitment, a vow to God and to each other (Eccl. 5:4-5). Marriage is for life! Even in cases of unfaithfulness God would desire repentance, forgiveness and restoration!

Building Block of Shared Identity

When we go back to the blueprint of God’s Word we learn of another stone added to the structure of a good strong marriage, that is, the two shall become one! Once married neither the man nor the woman is to live for themselves! This is clear in Adams words in Genesis 2:23-24, “This is now “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” While the husband and wife both have different habits, different backgrounds, different parents, different education, different personalities and even different baggage coming into a marriage the Bible sees them as becoming one!

The man and women are brought into a union and blend their lives together as one. It is once for all and yet it is a lifelong process that must be worked on and developed! It takes time, patience, and forgiveness to bring this shared identity of marriage into maturity! They are still two very distinct people yet they become one, they have a shared identity. This is even seen in the fact that Adam gave Eve her name. He first called her woman meaning out of man and then latter called her Eve meaning mother of all living. He gave her a name and she took the name he gave her. Even in this we see them as one!

This oneness is marriage is another building block leading to a strong marriage.

Tim Hadley Sr.
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