Thursday, July 20, 2017

Building a Strong Marriage (Part Three)

Building Block of Absolute Faithfulness

Along with these first two building blocks of a lifelong commitment and shared identity, marriage must be built on absolute fidelity on both the husband and the wife! Listen to Proverbs 6:27-29, “Can a man take fire to his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent.”

The Bible is very clear and uncompromising on the issue of faithfulness, sexual faithfulness, emotional and mental faithfulness! In Titus 2:4-5, Paul exhorted older sisters to teach the younger women “to love their husband, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste.” As both the woman and the man enter marriage they are to be total committed to one another only! This goes back to Exodus 20:14 where we read in no uncertain terms “You shall not commit adultery.” Our hearts, our thoughts, our comfort and our time must be dedicated to only one! No one else should come between the husband and wife in any of those areas! Emotional and mental has been called the silent killer of marriages.

Emotional unfaithfulness is very dangerous because it not only takes away time and energy from the marriage, but it can lead to sexual infidelity and possibly divorce. Emotional infidelity may also take place online via social media, chat rooms, on cellular phones through sexting and texting, and by time spent with someone in secret and building a “friendship” and eventual emotional connection. Another way of looking at emotional and mental infidelity is that the betrayal is a symptom of the problems that already exist within a marriage, perhaps unmet needs. 
Here are a few things that should be avoided if we are to build strong marriages that will honor the Lord:

• Establishing a relationship with someone of the opposite sex that is private from ones spouse.
• Excessive texting, calling, or online communication such as social media, chat rooms, or instant messengers.
• Lunch or dinner dates that are secret in nature (without the spouse’s knowledge).
• Talking on the phone in private, leaving the room, or closing down computer screens when one’s spouse enters.
• Disclosing personal information about a marriage, especially if one is unhappy, to strangers of the opposite sex.

Tim Hadley Sr.

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