Thursday, May 19, 2011

Forgiving Our Fathers

We enter fatherhood with many experience and expectations. Some of those relate to our own fathers, who sometimes fell short of what we think a good father should be. We may carry a heavy burden of anger, resentment, hurt, low esteem and emotional pain caused by our fathers. We must be courageous and deal with these burdens so we can become better fathers.

Acknowledging negative emotions and what caused them can be an important step to starting a new chapter in our family histories. We need to deal with these feelings with the goal of forgiving our fathers (Matthew 6:14-15). Forgiveness will lead us on the path to healing.

Forgiving our fathers does not necessarily mean our fathers are guiltless. It does not mean that they have to be involved in our lives. However, if reconciliation is still possible, we should welcome it.

Forgiveness is as much for us as it is for our fathers. Forgiveness is saying that we release bitterness or hate from our hearts. Forgiveness can set us free to be the kind of father our children need.

It has been said that, “Fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects men.” I would simply add that fathering is not something that perfect men do, but something that imperfect men do in reliance and dependence on the perfect Father.

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